PARTY PERIPHERALS: ENGAGING ELEMENTS PART I

So you've finally done it. The question has been popped, and cloud 9 is where you currently reside. Now is the time to let the world know of your impending nuptials and expected matrimonial bliss. The need for a fabulous engagement party has been born.

This is the first of many parties to come, and the factors going into this affair run the gamut. Below is a quick-reference guide to planning the perfect evening to assure the announcement of getting hitched goes off without even the slightest hitch.

To Host or Not to Host?
Traditionally, the parents of the bride are responsible for the planning of the engagement party; however, changing times have influenced the passing of the torch. It is not uncommon for the parents of the groom also to step in with assistance. Many times, close friends or siblings of the couple take on the responsibility. In a great deal of cases, the blushing bride-to-be and her fiance may choose to host their own party announcing their exciting news. Regardless of who hosts the event, getting input from the happy couple is highly recommended.

Don't Overdo It.
Since this is the first party surrounding the upcoming wedding, the initial response might be to have a huge blowout. Considering the numerous events that are to come, including The Big Day itself, keeping the engagement party simple and intimate is a good idea. Blowing a huge chunk of your budget on the very first occasion of the matrimonial chapter is far from necessary; however, if the couple's personality professes bigger is better, then by all means, run with it.

Shhhh?
Often the engagement party marks the event where the couple first announces their intentions of marriage; however, if keeping a secret is too much to handle, it is perfectly acceptable to inform the attendees ahead of time the occasion for hosting such a party.

Casual or Formal?
When deciding the type of engagement party, really anything goes. Some couples opt for a laid-back setting on the beach, at their favorite lounge, or in the backyard of a close friend or family member. In these types of settings, the food, drinks, and themes can remain casual (i.e. potluck, BBQ, buffet, silly yet fun decorations, etc.) Other times, formality is key for the couple. In these cases, a catered seated dinner or a chic cocktail party with passed hors d'oeuvres sets the tone. The venue for a more formal function ranges depending upon the needs. Having it at someone's home, a private room at a restaurant, or a funky art gallery are just a few options.

When is the Celebration?
Generally, if the couple has a long engagement ahead of them, the festivities to celebrate the momentus occasion are held one to three months after the engagement, and/or about a year before the wedding. If the engagement is on the shorter side, the party can be held any time more than six months before the wedding.

Who's on the Guest List?
Often, the engagement party is reserved for family and close friends. Traditionally, the purpose of the event was to introduce the families of the respective bride and bridegroom, so an intimate affair was expected. There are no set rules, however, so if the happy couple would rather announce their exciting news to banquet hall of hundreds as opposed to a living room of tens, it is totally up to them.

Tune in next Wednesday for Part II of Engaging Elements when I discuss tips on party themes, games, and guidelines.

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